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To repeat: I'm looking for ABI compatibility between libraries of the same Visual-C++ version!

We want to mix and match some internal C++ DLLs from different teams - built at different times with different project files. Because of long build times, we exactly want to avoid large monolithic builds where each team re-compiles the source code of another team's library.

When consuming C++ DLLs with C++ interfaces it is rather clear that you only can do this if all DLLs are compiled with the same compiler / Visual Studio version.

What is not readily apparent to me is what, exactly needs to be the same to get ABI compatibility.

Obviously debug (_DEBUG) and release (NDEBUG) cannot be mixed -- but that's also apparent from the fact that these link to different versions of the shared runtime.
Do you need the exact same compiler version, or is it sufficient that the resulting DLL links to the same shared C++ runtime -- that is, basically to the same redistributable? (I think static doesn't fly when passing full C++ objects around)
Is there a documented list of compiler (and linker) options that need to be the same for two C++ DLLs of the same vc++ version to be compatible?
- For example, is the same /O switch necessary - does the optimization level affect ABI compatibility´? (I'm pretty sure not.)
- Or do both version have to use the same /EH switch?
- Or /volatile:ms|iso ... ?

Essentially, I'd like to come up with a set of (meta-)data to associate with a Visual-C++ DLL that describes it's ABI compatibility.

If differences exist, my focus is on VS2015 only at the moment.

Have been thinking this through the last days, and what I did do was to try to see if some use-cases exists where devs have already needed to categorize their C++ build to make sure binaries are compatible.

One such place is the Native Packages from nuget. So I looked at one package there, specifically the cpprestsdk:

The binaries in the downloadable package as split like this:

native\v120\windesktop\msvcstl\dyn\rt-dyn\x64\Release\
        ^      ^         ^      ^    ^     
  VS version   |       not sure |    uses cpp-runtime dynamically
               |               lib itself dynamic (as opposed to static)
    or WinXP or WinApp(WinRT?)

I pulled this out from this example, because I couldn't find any other docs. I also know that the boost binaries build directory is separated in a similar way.

So, to get to a list of meta data to identify the ABI compatibility, I can preliminarily list the following:

VC version (that is, the version of the C and CPP runtime libraries used)
- one point here is that e.g. vc140 should be enough nowadays - given how the CRT is linked in, all possible bugfixes to the versioned CRT components must be ABI compatible anyway, so it shouldn't matter which version a given precompiled library was built with.
pure native | managed (/CLI) | WinRT
how the CRT is consumed (statically / dynamically)
bitness / platform (Win32, x64, ARM, etc.)
Release or Debug version (i.e. which version of the CRT we link to)
plus: _ITERATOR_DEBUG_LEVEL ... if everyone goes with the defaults, fine, if a project does not, it must declare so

Additionally my best guess as to the following items:

/O must not matter - we constantly mix&match binaries with different optimization settings - specifically, this is even working for object files within the same binary
/volatile - since this is a code-gen thing, I have a hard time imagining how this could break an ABI
/EH - except for the option to disable all exception, in which case you obviously can't call anything that throws, I'm pretty confident this is save from an ABI perspective: There are possible pitfalls here, but I think they can't really be categorized into ABI compat. (Maybe some complex callback chains could be said to be ABI incompatible, not sure)

Others:

Default calling convention (/G..) : I think this would break at link time, when mangled export symbols and header declarations don't match up.
/Zc:wchar_t - will break at link time (It's actually ABI compatible, but the symbols won't macth.)
Enable RTTI (/GR) - not too sure 'bout this one - I never have worked with this disabled.