How to validate a field on update in DRF?

I have a serializer for a model with a foreign key. The requirement is that on create, foreign key can be set to any existing object from the related model, but on update the related object cannot be changed. I can check this in the custom update(), but it would be more elegant to use serializer validation to check for this? But I am not sure how. Example code:

class Person(models.Model):
    name = models.CharField(max_length=256)
    spouse = models.ForeignKey(Person)

class PersonSerializer(serializers.ModelSerializer):
    class Meta:
        model = Person

    # this is how I know how to do this
    def create(self, validated_data):
        try:
            spouse = Person.objects.get(pk=int(validated_data.pop('spouse')))
        except Person.DoesNotExist:
            raise ValidationError('Imaginary spouses not allowed!')
        return Person.objects.create(spouse=spouse, **validation_data)

    def update(self, person, validated_data):
        if person.spouse.pk != int(validated_data['spouse']):
            raise ValidationError('Till death do us part!')
        person.name = validation_data.get('name', person.name)
        person.save()
        return person

   # the way I want to do this
   def validate_spouse(self, value):
       # do validation magic

You can definitely do this using the validation on a field. The way you'd check if it's an update vs. creation is checking for self.instance in the validation function. There's a bit mentioned about it in the serializer documentation.

self.instance will hold the existing object and it's values, so you can then use it to compare against.

I believe this should work for your purposes:

def validate_spouse(self, value):
    if self.instance and value != self.instance.spouse:
        raise serializers.ValidationError("Till death do us part!")
    return value

Another way to do this is to override if the field is read_only if you're updating. This can be done in the __init__ of the serializer. Similar to the validator, you'd simply look for an instance and if there's data:

def __init__(self, *args, **kwargs):
    # Check if we're updating.
    updating = "instance" in kwargs and "data" in kwargs

    # Make sure the original initialization is done first.
    super().__init__(*args, **kwargs)

    # If we're updating, make the spouse field read only.
    if updating:
        self.fields['spouse'].read_only = True