According to the Apple Staff reply, no api for that right now.
https://forums.developer.apple.com/thread/16049
To perform nearly the same thing, I would suggest using
enumerateContactsWithFetchRequest:error:usingBlock:
Assuming an individual contact is identified by name, when the name field remain the same but other infos are changed, we can say the contact is updated. If you concern about the performance, do it on a background queue.
Hope this help.
I have checked out CNContact framework for iOS 12, but I can't find API like kABPersonModificationDateProperty
https://developer.apple.com/documentation/contacts/cncontact?language=objc