SQL - IF EXISTS UPDATE ELSE INSERT INTO(SQL - IF

我正在试图做的是INSERT在我的数据库用户，但IF EXISTS应该UPDATE行， ELSE INSERT INTO新行。

Ofcourse我连接到数据库第一和GET在$name ， $email和$birthday从URL字符串。

$con=mysqli_connect("localhost","---","---","---");
// Check connection
if (mysqli_connect_errno())
  {
  echo "Failed to connect to MySQL: " . mysqli_connect_error();
  }

$name=$_GET['name']; 
$email=$_GET['email'];
$birthday=$_GET['birthday'];

这个工作，但只是增加了新的行;

mysqli_query($con,"INSERT INTO subs (subs_name, subs_email, subs_birthday)
VALUES ('$name', '$email', '$birthday')");

mysqli_close($con);

这是我试过;

mysqli_query($con,"INSERT INTO subs (subs_name, subs_email, subs_birthday)
VALUES '$name', '$email', '$birthday'
ON DUPLICATE KEY UPDATE subs_name = VALUES($name), subs_birthday = VALUES($birthday)");
mysqli_close($con);

和

mysqli_query($con,"IF EXISTS (SELECT * FROM subs WHERE subs_email='$email')
    UPDATE subs SET subs_name='$name', subs_birthday='$birthday' WHERE subs_email='$email'
ELSE
    INSERT INTO subs (subs_name, subs_email, subs_birthday) VALUES ('$name', '$email', '$birthday')");
mysqli_close($con);

和

mysqli_query($con,"IF NOT EXISTS(SELECT * FROM subs WHERE subs_email='$email')
Begin
INSERT INTO subs (subs_name, subs_email, subs_birthday)
VALUES ('$name', '$email', '$birthday')
End");
mysqli_close($con);

但他们没有工作，我究竟做错了什么？

任何帮助是极大的赞赏！

创建UNIQUE约束你的subs_email列，如果一个不存在：
```
 ALTER TABLE subs ADD UNIQUE (subs_email) 
```

使用INSERT ... ON DUPLICATE KEY UPDATE ：

 INSERT INTO subs (subs_name, subs_email, subs_birthday) VALUES (?, ?, ?) ON DUPLICATE KEY UPDATE subs_name = VALUES(subs_name), subs_birthday = VALUES(subs_birthday)